You You You !
You has not been one of my most favorit words in school at home and in my life, Why you ask? To an ADHD mom,wife,daughter& home keeper,you is usaly a negative thing.I am completely aware everyone has there issues ,similar one but not so repetively and as often an ADHD person gets reminded or criticized by there symptoms. I for no means want your pity ,just some more composition and support.we are remedied by are limitations daily some more than others and all different ages,this is a life long challenge for many. Some more than others. Im greatfull to have a supportive family but at times we deal with others types of people.The word you I've heard all my life attached with a negative comment most of the time ,in school,you don't listen,you don't concentrat,you can't stay still,you got that wrong, you spelled this wrong you counted this wrong you need to focus,you dinent finish your homework ,you don't seem interested ,you need to calm down.
How with all these negative you words do you expect us not to get frustrated ,don't you think we get down about are limitations to be remedied by everyone what we don't do right. How can anyone be motivated in this busy life with so much negative baggage we carry throughout our life's .HOw can we break this cycle of negative you words . When you see yourself judging someone just watch how you use the "you" word with your kids and especially in your family circle , we want your acceptance and need your loving support. The truth is we need to believe In ourselves first, and just our best.
Very few people usually take the time to tell you ,yes you can! I believe in you . It is our responsibility to let go of negative baggage . Love and support is something you should have around you always , but it's not always that way so put your shields up and do you! Love & peace yari...
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Hi Yari
I just finished reading the most life changing book for me, called Awareness by Anthony de Mello. It was easy to read, and not that big. I rarely finish any books, but this one I couldn't get enough of.
One of the main themes I took from it, is that we fact that it is our need for others appreciation, approval, and attention which contribute to so many of our issues. And that if one day we are suddenly able to understand the fact that we actually don't NEED anyone else, then we will have awareness. He says that we have a "Me" and an "I". In my words, the "I" is our true Self, our Soul if you like. the "me" is our more human side - where we experience emotions like depression and anxiety, etc. The "me" is also the part that everyone else sees and projects their own interpretation onto. It is helpful for the "I" in us to understand this, and to just observe. Observe the emotions in us and don't identify with them. "I" am not depressed. But there is depression there. Just watch it and it will move on. Observe that others project onto us through their own emotions, experiences, beliefs. The "I" is not being judged at all. The "I" is constant and fine.
Anyway, that is my own interpretation, but I found the book fantastic!
All the best
Liz
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