I wish....
Let's face it, i'm a little differerent from people at work, friends, fellow mothers and family members, especially my husbands side which is a very big side. Sometimes I can even see, hear, smell and taste the awkwardness or the thoughts of them thinking..."okay, seriously, what's wrong with her?" I wish I could just scream in that moment and say..."Ahhhh....I have ADHD and this is what it means!" Of course someone who doesn't have ADHD (like my husband) wouldn't understand it and would probably think it's an big ol' FAT excuse.
I wish the president could request a world wide broadcast on ADHD so that everyone could have an understanding that a lot of people have it and what to expect from it and how to accept it as something real and not made up. That would be a lot easier on me that's for sure.
I wish all of you ladies lived in my neighborhood and we could all plan a weekly date for some coffee and some good ol' convo and laughs and be 15 minutes late of course! :)
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Permalink Reply by Joy Marie Robideaux on -
I could not agree more! The running joke for years with my friends, I'm the HIGH MAINTENANCE friend of the bunch. Now that I know I have ADHD, it makes more sense to me and can see why they've labeled me as such.
It used to bother me but it's true, I require more maintenance then them. In the middle of my undiagnosed ADHD life, I always took time for myself. I made the time every day to shower, put on my make-up, style my hair, wear something other than sweats and t-shirt and always made sure I had jewelry on. It did not matter if I ever left the house that day, I still made myself up. I'm sure it came across as me being selfish & stuck up over the years but this was (and still is) the one area of my life I can control and not feel like I'm hanging on by a thread.
I may have felt like crap and the world felt like it was crashing down on me, this was one part of the day I could block out as much of that as possible. This was and still is my happy place. It makes me feel better. I guess if you really look at it under a microscope, it's me putting on my armor so no one sees my cracks and what has been going on inside me for all these years.
I have to laugh, looking back over the years and seeing the way my life is now, this is the one task each day I really can start and finish and get done in about 30-45 minutes. The rest of my day is stop, start, what was I doing, oh yeah don't forget to finish this, where did I place that, it's 5PM and I forgot to get dinner ready.
Unless you have or live with someone with ADHD, it's hard for the outside world to understand, this is who we are, we are not lazy and ADHD is not an excuse, we are just wired differently.
P.S. We're not 15 minutes late, they're too damn early!!!! LOL ;)
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Permalink Reply by Barbara on -
Sorry, to hear you are having to deal with 'idots' or the less informed. I half make jokes about my ADD with people, expecially when they look at my stupid, or if I did't get it. I really and just being a 'smart' to them, they just haven't figured that out. I will say, oh, can you explain that to me I have ADD, or I will say darn I was just haveing another ADD moment, then I will say yes it is a 'neurobiological disorder of the brain" ...then they start looking stupid.
I have EX HUSBAND and no he dosen't understand, say is was just BS!!. My sister who is very academic, and who loves me very much, I handed her ADD books. She wanted to help me with my budget, I said ok, here is and ADD book, then when we would have conversations, she would comment and I would say you didn't read the ADD book I gave you did you, so finally she started reading and she got her eyes wide opened, she told me if she hadn't started reading the ADD books she would have thought it was a bunch of BS as she has seen me struggle for 50 years and now finally she was reading me in the ADD books. Yes, she is my 'coach' and it is tough on both of us.
Barbara
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