Great plans... until I get home!
I am wondering if anyone else out there has the same issue. I work part time and while I am away from home, I plan all the things I need to do, ie. housework, dinner, trying to get a plan to get organized (my basement is a disaster) and when I get home I fizzle out completely and and give up.
It's almost like walking in the door sucks any motivation right out of me, and then I end up spending my evenings not doing anything I had planned. Does anyone else have the same problem and could anyone offer any suggestions? If I were a horse I would need blinders!!
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Permalink Reply by Ashley Caldwell on -
I try making lists...but usually forget to look at them and find them in my pockets while doing laundy. One thing I am trying to work on, as suggested by friends, is to delegate some of my to-do list items to my stepdaughters. I don't know if you have kids, but I've been assured that it will help get stuff done as well as teach them some responsibility. I've been unable in the past to maintain chores or to be consistent in telling them what to do.. My new method that I am trying is to keep a medium sized dry-erase board around the living room/dining room area and whenever I do think of something the kids should be able to handle, I write them a note on the board asking them to do it after their homework is done. I try to limit it to one or two things a day. This way they are contributing to the household, but I don't need to take on that extra responsibility to set chore schedules, check up on them, or be consistent in rewarding them or anything.
Another thing I am trying to make a habit... is using my smartphone. I am trying to put things on my phone's calendar with set reminders. I also know that I must be medicated before I attempt to get anything done. If it is early evening or late afternoon and my medication has worn off, I need to have short-acting Ritalin so I can still function in those hours, but still be able to go to sleep at night. A friend of mine also gave me the advice to take at least 15 -20 minutes to just sit, relax, and get my thoughts in order before I try to do anything when I first get home.
If you find anything that works, please let me know! I still need help in this area too.
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Permalink Reply by Cheryll Weiner on -
Hi Karen,
You are definitely not alone with this problem.
I can't seem to figure it out either???
I feel like I have so much motivation to get all these household projects (i.e. laundry, cleaning, washing floors, vacuuming livingroom furniture, organizing and filing all my bills, sorting all the tons of junk mail from the last 2 years to take to recycle, clean grout in tiles bathrooms,clean behind the fridge,cooking, knitting, sewing, hook rugs, planting seeds in the garden, etc) done when I am not at home, ....while I'm at work, I have it almost all planned out in my head, and I am so excited sometimes and I just can't wait to get home - while at work, I can barely focus on what I need to do because I'm resarching on the web in prepararion for doing all kinds of projects at home.
Sometimes, I even go shopping or order supplies to actually do some of these imagined projects, and then the minute I walk in the house, its all over!!!
I can barely bring in the packages from the car - I just feel so exhausted and overwhelmed and I don't know where to start, so I wind up doing nothing....
Then agonize over it for the rest of the night, or the weekend if its a Friday or Saturday!!!
This is all new to me....being a newly diagnosed ADD'er.
I am 55 years old, and I have been told all my life that I am lazy, I'm selfish, narrowminded, overdramatic, or I don't try hard enough or that I am depressed, (which I know I am not!!!) I was even told by one doctor that I was bi-polar!!!
But now, everything finally makes sense to me!!!
But its really hard to feel like an outsider to the rest of the world.
I am always late, and people are always pissed at me for "disrespecting" them-as if I do it on purpose!!???
I hate being late!!
Its a constant struggle, but I am never going to give up!!
and thats my philosophy in life.
I always feel like no matter how badly I messed up yesterday, as long as I wake up today to the sun shining in the sky, and I can get out of bed, and put one foot in front of the other,
I can always make today a better day.
I always feel grateful for today because if I take a good hard look around, I realize that it could always be worse....So with a true sense of love in my heart, I say to you -
my suggestion is:
Cheryll
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Permalink Reply by Suzanne -
Me too, when I'm out and about I have loads of ideas about what I am going to do but once I get home I either forget or am too knackered. I don't really have any answers. I only realised recently that I have ADD I just thought I was a lazy waste of space up till then. I am seeing the dr today.
I do know that I have been compensating for my ADD though over the years and am doing many of the things books describe. I find that if things have their own place that is easy to get to then I put things away ie if I can open the cupboard and put the plate straight in then I will, if I have to move a pile of bowls to do so then I will just leave it on the side. It has to be quick and easy.
Another thing I did was create lots of little cards. There would be one for the main task to be done, then I would break the task down into smaller parts and write cards for each one that way once each bit of the task was done I could put the card in the completed things pot which made me feel that I had achieved something. I also wrote cards for things I did everyday anyway so I could see the things I did. That helped when my OH was claiming that I did nothing and he did everything!
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