frustratedmom
hi all have just signed up,am feeling vety lonley with my adhd most people think it does not exist in my world however wish they could have my head for one day. have sat all morning at a massive pile of clothes and can not seem to put them away ahh
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Permalink Reply by Antoinette on -
I have the same problem. Yesterday somebody helped to put the wash from our floors. today it's my washing day. If my friend didn't help me, it would have been a few more day before it was ready.
Please don't feel lonely, I understand.
Greetings Antoinette
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Permalink Reply by Cindy Barham on -
isnt that one of the biggest problems??? Right now, I'm at work, but at home I've been shuffling two laudry baskets full of Dry, Folded laundry that does not make it up stairs!
My hubby doesnt think I'm ADD....I am going to psych tomorrow....hopefully, I'll get some kinda answer.....
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Permalink Reply by Melissa Montanez on
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Dont feel lonley. There are many of us out here. I have the same problem you do. There are times it depresses me that I just cant do stuff and finish it. I live in a community of perfect little stay at home moms. Who would never understand why my house isnt perfect. Hang in there...you will figure something out. Hope the Dr. can help!!
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Permalink Reply by debs on
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hi this is my first time on this site to find like minded people is just fab thankyou . my next big problem is my husband does not want to know about my struggles he wants me to take responsibility for house hold finances am terrified any advice please
Antoinette said:I have the same problem. Yesterday somebody helped to put the wash from our floors. today it's my washing day. If my friend didn't help me, it would have been a few more day before it was ready.
Please don't feel lonely, I understand.
Greetings Antoinette
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Permalink Reply by Merry on
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You know Debs sometimes the mountain is too high to climb! What I try to do with all mountains is ignore the top and make it a hill, or even a bump! I just deny the mountain! Try giving yourself a target of 10 items and then forgive yourself. This applies to everything that seems so huge I cannot even begin work, family, housework - the only thing I don't apply this to is food shopping where I just go for it all, discount wise,and then forget it!
Don;t be lonely - we are all in this together and we understand. x
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Permalink Reply by debs on
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hi Melissa i live in uk also have freinds with the most perfect homes and children would love to be the same but i know i just can not am normally thought of as dizzy dolly but as long as i can be accepted as being me i realy do not mind having chats with likeminded people is to me just fab thankyou
Melissa Montanez said:Dont feel lonley. There are many of us out here. I have the same problem you do. There are times it depresses me that I just cant do stuff and finish it. I live in a community of perfect little stay at home moms. Who would never understand why my house isnt perfect. Hang in there...you will figure something out. Hope the Dr. can help!!
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Permalink Reply by 2martins on
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you can't make everyone else understand adhd, but if you know you have it, and you pursue strategies to help yourself cope, you will feel better about your life.
I don't like it when people say rude things like "well, if you just tried" or what my mom used to say to me "if it were really important to you, you would remember." I had no calendar!!! She did NOTHING to help me handle with any of the organization stuff I struggled with. She honestly believed that if i just tried harder, I wouldn't have any problem. I know differently, and my life is a LOT better now that I am working toward finding strategies, electronics, meds, systems for organizing whatever it takes to help me deal with my problem areas.
I have a laundry system for example, that is amazing and i don't have trouble keeping up with the laundry now. I am still struggling with other areas, but bit by bit I am making progress. I have 4 different baskets and when i take clothes off i sort them right into the apppropriate basket. One for whites, one for warms, dark delicate and light delicate. When the bin is full, it's time to do a load. You have to get a bin that;s the same size as a load for YOUR washer!!! I also got a washer and dryer both of which have really loud signals when they are done. Otherwise I would never remember to get the stuff out. If yours doesn't ahve a loud enough signal, you have to set a timer that IS loud enough. You have to take the stuff out of the dryer right away so you don't have to iron or re-wash. I am WAY too lazy to iron, so that's my motivation. My latest attempt to organize something I am struggling with is to get a scanner and software that will help me with my receipts and business cards. Wish me luck!!!!
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Permalink Reply by Gail Bellefeuille on
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I just joined yesterday and would like to say I can relate wholeheartedly to your post.I too feel isolated and lonely at times with this.I truly have a weird issue with not following through 100% on a task.I HATE doing laundry,and really detest putting it away.Partially it has to do with facilities here in my place.My laundry room is waaaaay in the basement and dark, ugly, and dingy(the only room left to renovate$)..hopefully it may give you some comfort knowing there are other moms/people out there that can relate!
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Permalink Reply by KD on -
I just signed up as well. You are correct, most people do not think that ADHD exists. I find it funny that we wish they could jump into our heads one day, but we as ADDers (or at least the kind that I have)...Can jump into someone's head even if I have just met them, and I know where they are going before they do. I to sit at massive piles of paperwork. I make my daughter get the mail because I cannot stand the mailbox. Then I let it pile up. Laundry and clothes do not bother me as much. It doesn't matter if it's piles of clothes or paperwork. It's just real hard.
I need post on how to follow through...job wise. I cannot compete anything I start. I need real advise, a real mentor in this area or I am going to stay completely broke for the rest of my life....Not good.
You are not alone. Email me anytime.
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Permalink Reply by debs on
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Hi KD just read your reply have had vacation in Dubai for a few days made it through fab relaxing time trying to unpack now not a success should be not speaking to you but doing that instead will try i so also need help with organization my poor husband is at his wits end just wish they could accept my happy little head and i could just do the best i can do for today.speak later unpack again later debs
KD said:I just signed up as well. You are correct, most people do not think that ADHD exists. I find it funny that we wish they could jump into our heads one day, but we as ADDers (or at least the kind that I have)...Can jump into someone's head even if I have just met them, and I know where they are going before they do. I to sit at massive piles of paperwork. I make my daughter get the mail because I cannot stand the mailbox. Then I let it pile up. Laundry and clothes do not bother me as much. It doesn't matter if it's piles of clothes or paperwork. It's just real hard.
I need post on how to follow through...job wise. I cannot compete anything I start. I need real advise, a real mentor in this area or I am going to stay completely broke for the rest of my life....Not good.
You are not alone. Email me anytime.
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Permalink Reply by Brandy Boulting on
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You are not alone! I am a 34 year old mother of two, but I have a husband who really tries to understand my AD/HD. My mother is still trying to come to terms with it, my sister understands because my niece has it too. AD/HD does exist, and it's hell to live with. HOWEVER, it is great to know that we are not alone. The more you learn about it, the better it gets. My therapist tells me that even with my meds (I take Adderall XR 25 mg in a.m., and a booster of short acting 15 mg in afternoon) I will still have some hellish days that just don't seem to mesh and go right. Then again, I have absolutely great days where I feel like I can take on every task that faces me. It's hard, and it's exhausting to struggle with this everyday. To add to it, I run an in home daycare program for six children in addition to my own two year old! It gets to be a bit much, and I am currently looking for some techniques to help me better manage my time, frustrations, etc.
Chin up, at least we have this group now!!
Brandy
Ankeny, IA
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