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Permalink Reply by Terry Matlen on -
Don't be shy! Ask away.
** By posting your questions here, you are giving me permission to print them in a future newsletter. So make sure you sign your name and city/state the way you'd like it to read. You can use a nickname if you'd like.
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Permalink Reply by Carolyn Hebner on -
I was on adderall xr I stopped this past June. What other medications are out there with good results, the adderall made my blood pressure go up.
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Permalink Reply by classicboo on -
I am recently diagnosed and have co-morbid depression, anxiety and OCD. It significantly impairs my ability to get things done, so I am considering medication, What medications are available that will not make the anxiety worse? I know some of the medications are stimulants, so I am a bit concerned.
Pam Darden
Chesapeake, VA
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Permalink Reply by Dea'ndra (Dee) on -
Ok ok... I have to admit, I skimmed the research study Parenting behavior in Moms with ADHD. By Dr.David Radbiner of Duke University.
I have been up way to late thinking about this.... Is there any writings or research perhaps about just the gifts that Only Add Moms can give? We all know our downfalls quite well. In fact, majority of the public has an opinion or knowledge of our downfalls.
We Adders know deep down that we have strengths that non Adders do not. However we don't usually read about that. It would be refreshing to read more about the positive traits in the Adders rather than the evident downfalls backed up by research.
Deelite
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Permalink Reply by Giulia on
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Dear Terry,
I was waiting a long time before writing to you, but I'm getting fed up !
Since my diagnosis of ADHD, relationships with my mom have become very hard. We often argue, even for little things.
For example, I refuse to see mom's friend because, for example, she asks me to make a false declaration in the health form for driving licence. I have refused because I know it will create a lot of problems, and since this so-told-good-friend (for me, not for mom) refuses to understand that I refuse to go into troubles just because of her f... advice, I decided neither to talk to her nor seeing her. Mom has never really accepted it, and while I was washing the dishes, mom was always saying how good is her friend, how good she manages her money etc.... I replied to mom that there is no excuse for her friend to behave like she were a lawyer whereas she is a French teacher (like you have English teachers)/editor : everyone his job !
Then, she was starting to insult me, to say that I am naughty and so on.
Her friend has behaved the same with my Single Sided Deafness (I am totally deaf from one ear) and my ENT doctor unadvised me to be pregnant because it may worsen my deafness. The geneticist-ENT told me exactly the same thing. This so-told-good-friend told me that since 2 of her friends with a SSD had no hearing problems after the child's birth, she tried to pressure me to make up my mind.
These two times she behaved like if this friend were a lawyer/physician (of course, she isn't !), mom never accepts that I don't accept that someone acts pretending like if he were someone else as he is (like he pretends to be a lawyer whereas he isn't).
I know I'm not a doctor/lawyer, but about my health problems, as medical as in law, I always ask to a specialist before deciding.
Mom says I don't accept someone to disagree with me, I always laugh like a crazy and tell her that with my true friends, we don't always agree, but they never ever pretend to be a doctor/lawyer....
How to make mom accept that her friend can't give me medical advice (I am old enough to ask my physician or to find a specialist in law) and how to tell mom that I don't want her to play the specialist whereas she isn't ?
I ask her to be a mom, neither a doctor nor a lawyer (she often plays like if she were knowing everything in law, whereas if I've listened to her advice, the situation would be worse !!) !
Any idea ?
Thanks for your reply,
Giulia, Paris (France, Europe)
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Permalink Reply by Amy Wilson on -
Hello Terry, I am a newly diagnosed mother of 5. I am also a new RN, just graduated from college and entering the working world. I have found the need for treatment after so many years of knowing I had ADD without actually getting diagnosed. I find work overwhelming and I am constantly unable to get through a day with out someone putting me down for my inability to get it together. I have been put on concerta for about 2 weeks and started at 36 mg but i am all the way up to 72 mg after 2 weeks only and still fill like I need something else. I dont know what to do. Should I keep going through diffrent meds to find the right one or keep trying this one. I need to know what I can expect from the medication. Will it help me that much?
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Permalink Reply by Just Silly on
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Hi Terry-
What can I do to stop the feeling of being overwhelmed/anxious/unable to focus each morning these last several days before Christmas and New Year's? I want to help my friend who cannot afford a tree, string my lights on the house instead of letting my husband, repaint the walls (during decorating I noticed they need new coat of paint), can't decide which "big" item to get my kids (they're the ones saying "it's about Jesus and they're only 4 and 7), etc.......
I took my medication, I try to think positively and focus on what's important but the last 2 mornings, I've been all wound up!
This morning, I started to tear up at stupid things.....I obviously DO NOT like to feel like I'm not in control of my emotions. Glad I'm NOT working as an elementary Guidance Counselor as I did for the past 3 years- who would guide who???
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