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Permalink Reply by Monica Johnson on -
I used to think that somethings that happened in my life were hilarious. After I read a book about understanding women with addI I was not laughing. Things that happened in my life just stopped being funny when I realized the severity of my add. I just want to take a step back and discover the humor again. If anyone else would care to share something that happened to them we could all be laughing.
I have so many incidents involving car keys and cooking. One night I forgot to put the pasta in the hamburger helper, I thought it looked funny. Anoher time I failed to turn the crock pot on and it took four hours for me to notice it was not working. At least we got to eat out on those special days.
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Permalink Reply by Sue on -
Oh my, I've got so many embarassing stories that I just have to laugh about now that I know why I did these things :))
Once I met a cute guy and his friend at a trade show. So, the guy, Tom, called and asked me to a concert on double date with his friend. I said yes. So he comes to pick me up, only it was the friend who came to the door. So I said "Where's Tom?" He said "I'M Tom." I didn't remember their names so I just figured it was the guy I liked who had called, but he was waiting in the car - with his date.
Another time, shortly after we'd moved up north, I was driving home from the grocery store in a snow storm in my SUV without 4 wheel drive. There was a really steep hill and I couldn't get up it so these 2 guys pull over to help me. Well, they're back there pushing and pushing and the car is going nowhere. So finally one of them says to me "Did you put it in neutral?!?!" Ummmm, no, I had forgotten that small detail.
I'm also constantly buying things and then leaving them in the bag on the store counter, only to be chased outside by the store clerk trying to give me my stuff. A few times I've actually got home and had to go back!
All my life I just thought that I was super flakey and that this must somehow be my mother's fault. After all she was super flakey too. But now I know it's because of my ADHD and that my mother must have also had it. So now I have medicine that helps me focus for at least part of the day, and I've decided that it's gonna have to be ok for me to be this way and at least now I know I'm not alone.
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Permalink Reply by Lovemypirates1121 on -
So my husband and I are embarking on an exciting life change...we're buying a house for the first time!! We're currently living in a condo my parents own and to put it simply, it's caused tensions and rifts in relationships.
We've been house hunting in the last few weeks and found an absolutely darling 3br, 2 bath Cape Cod that was built in 1933. It's in really good condition, actually, with just a few cosmetic issues that we could easily handle. It's a foreclosure, and when the bank/seller dropped the price dramatically on Friday, we decided to make the jump!! We put an offer on the house Saturday afternoon and with any luck, we'll hear today whether or not our offer was accepted! I hope it will be.
We have a good feeling it will be, because we're offering more than the house is listed for, and we suspect the bank dropped the price ($127,900 to $109,900!) as much as they did because they want to get the house off their books before the end of the year and avoid putting the house on auction.
So, anyroads, this means...PACKING! LOL!! YIKES! I've had people make suggestions to us though, such as getting boxes from grocery stores, labeling them for each room so we're not going from box to box saying "Where is the phone/coffee maker/computer cords?" And using boxes to sort things into groups of "Keep, toss, and sell" and having a yard sale to get rid of stuff we don't need/ want anymore.
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Permalink Reply by Giulia on -
Ok, the sugar which affects the ADHD... In my own case, it has never affected me. And even more, when I take Coca Cola, it helps me (it's not enough strong to make as much effect as Ritalin, but it helps when I am without Ritalin, like at this moment. Especially with the Attention deficit...).
But since not everyone react the same with one substance, I can't affirm that my statement applies to everyone....
But I don't say it'll be the same for everyone. Each person is unique, which works for one may not work for another.
Same with sugar.
I really don't think that all children react in the same way with sugar : one may have his ADHD even worse, another may be quieter, it may make to another one neither hot nor cold (a French expression, and French is my mother tongue, which means it won't change anything. Here : the person will not have his behavior changed by the sugar).
I have been very lucky that I've been able to learn 3 foreign languages (Italian, English and Modern Greek) with a Single Sided Deafness and my ADHD, but this is another story.... Did sugar helped me for it ? I've never eaten much sugar (with a diabetic mom....), but I have eaten some now and then and I wasn't more nervous than without it. So I think that for the coca, caffeine helps me, and the sugar doesn't interfere with my ADHD.
But I have to insist, don't take what I say for running gold (an Italian expression, I don't know how to translate it exactly in English, but it means "take my words with caution", here because it may not apply for you and/or your child).
Can I ask something and, in the meantime, make a suggestion ? I know it's my first message, but....
As I told you before, I suffer from Single Sided Deafness (deafness from one ear) and ADHD (yep, together). I've seen my ENT (Ear, Nose and Throat) doctor not later than Friday, and he told me that it's very difficult to know if my auditory hypersensitivity comes mainly from my Single Sided Deafness, mainly from my ADHD or from both, and which part is one another....
I feel very isolated to manage these two issues together (I have no contacts with my male parent, only mom provides the help I need and fight with me for it.... My male parent always said that mom is unable to care me, that my Single Sided Deafness has been invented from my previous ENT doctor (how can it be possible because my previous ENT doctor was a chief department at the most famous French hospital for ENT in children ! He retired 6 years ago, and my current ENT is now here ;-) My current ENT is specialized in Single Sided Deafness because after a scuba diving accident, a friend of him has become single sided deaf, so he could see what impacts have the Single Sided Deafness on patients' life :-D But he hates when he's told that he's a reference for Single Sided Deafness : he cares only for his patients, not for his glory and fame !), I lost friends since the diagnosis.
The small amount of people and friends who stayed support me, they support when I need to fight for my elementariest rights (I am into something absolutely crazy to be able to give the exam for driving licence, just because of the Ritalin ! I won't make a lecture about French law, it'll bore you more than anything else ;-) ), when I cry because I have been called the "druggy" by someone at administration. And it's not always people you expect who stay or leave. And I prefer a small amount of people around me who support me than many of them who leave me when I need them : amount doesn't always make quality, and I care more about quality than quantity (if I lose friends because of the diagnosis, I feel sad, of course, but at the same time, I don't care : they can't stand the diagnosis, better they leave than they stay and make my life a poison (dilitirio in Greek) !). Sharing is a test for people, because friends have to accept how I am, the same as I accept how they are. I can't accept how they are if they don't accept how I am.
So if they leave because of it, or if I have to leave them because of their behavior, it's not a so big deal.
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Permalink Reply by amie aronson on
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HI everyone.I just wanted to introduce myself and say hi. I am Amie I am 29 and I have 3 boys ages 8, 4 and 18 months. My 8 year old has autism and I believe ADHD too. I have began medication for my ADHD over the summer and not seeing too much of a change tot be honest. In reading and talking to others I realize even more how much my ADHD really affect s my life and those who live with me No one really seems to understand except those who live with it as well. nice to "meet" all of you.
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Permalink Reply by LastminuteLynne on
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Hi I'm Lynne,
I didn't really connect ADD and life experiences until I read Sari Solden. I agree with Monica that suddenly it felt rather tragic...the crazy relationships, bad credit, under-achieving. I tried meds 2 years ago but didn't see a significant difference so I went back to coffee and protein. I must say that yoga 4x week has been my saving grace. I just feel able to cope. I'm 46 and working retail, so the career stall is my biggest downer right now. Kids are 12 and 14 so I'm beginning to have more time to focus on me a little more. It just feels impossible most days..2 kids, job, husband, health regimen, spiritual life......
amie aronson said:HI everyone.I just wanted to introduce myself and say hi. I am Amie I am 29 and I have 3 boys ages 8, 4 and 18 months. My 8 year old has autism and I believe ADHD too. I have began medication for my ADHD over the summer and not seeing too much of a change tot be honest. In reading and talking to others I realize even more how much my ADHD really affect s my life and those who live with me No one really seems to understand except those who live with it as well. nice to "meet" all of you.
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Permalink Reply by Judy on -
I was diagnosed with severe Adult Attention Deficit Disorder several years ago. I have been resisting meds since they are usually a controlled substance. Now that I realize that I can't straighten my life without help I have been calling every mental health center in town trying to get help. I keep running into brick walls. One place actually told me that there is not treatment for AADD that it's only for children. The rest of the places treat me like an addict trying to get high. I just want to get better.
If anyone can help me find someone that can help me get the meds I need in Colorado Springs I would really appreciate it.
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Permalink Reply by Terry Matlen on -
Judy,
I'm sorry you're having to deal with all these roadblocks!
Have you looked in my ADD Directory here, on the site? If you still can't find someone, contact CHADD at 800-233-4050 or visit their site at http://www.chadd.org to find the closest chapter to you. Contact the chapter and get names of clinicians who treat adult ADHD.
Let us know what happens.
Terry
Judy said:I was diagnosed with severe Adult Attention Deficit Disorder several years ago. I have been resisting meds since they are usually a controlled substance. Now that I realize that I can't straighten my life without help I have been calling every mental health center in town trying to get help. I keep running into brick walls. One place actually told me that there is not treatment for AADD that it's only for children. The rest of the places treat me like an addict trying to get high. I just want to get better.
If anyone can help me find someone that can help me get the meds I need in Colorado Springs I would really appreciate it.
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Permalink Reply by Rebekah on -
OMG I do that with the crock pot ALL the time...now my husband reminds me to check it, or goes and checks it himself if he's home!!! Yikes!!!
Monica Johnson said:I used to think that somethings that happened in my life were hilarious. After I read a book about understanding women with addI I was not laughing. Things that happened in my life just stopped being funny when I realized the severity of my add. I just want to take a step back and discover the humor again. If anyone else would care to share something that happened to them we could all be laughing.
I have so many incidents involving car keys and cooking. One night I forgot to put the pasta in the hamburger helper, I thought it looked funny. Anoher time I failed to turn the crock pot on and it took four hours for me to notice it was not working. At least we got to eat out on those special days.
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Permalink Reply by Lynette Ellis on -
I am forever running the coffee pot and forgetting to put the coffee in there!!!
Rebekah said:OMG I do that with the crock pot ALL the time...now my husband reminds me to check it, or goes and checks it himself if he's home!!! Yikes!!!
Monica Johnson said:I used to think that somethings that happened in my life were hilarious. After I read a book about understanding women with addI I was not laughing. Things that happened in my life just stopped being funny when I realized the severity of my add. I just want to take a step back and discover the humor again. If anyone else would care to share something that happened to them we could all be laughing.
I have so many incidents involving car keys and cooking. One night I forgot to put the pasta in the hamburger helper, I thought it looked funny. Anoher time I failed to turn the crock pot on and it took four hours for me to notice it was not working. At least we got to eat out on those special days.
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Permalink Reply by Essie on -
Ok, I know I am not the only one . . . I need help with getting grips on myself and food. I have been diagnosed with diabetes and it is so weight related. I like to say I do not have to be dead to know I am not doing things right, but getting in control of my eating has been an ongoing problem. I am having great difficulty finding professionals to be part of my treatment team who have any understanding of ADHD. I know how to eat healthy, but I continue to make bad choices. HELP!
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Permalink Reply by Lynette Ellis on
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Just recently we had an issue to where I couldn't use the kitchen stove (forgot to call the gas company for a refill...aaahhh) so one morning I pulled out the toaster oven to bake my sons chicken nuggets for school lunch. Put them in there turned it on, turned the tickety tick time on and let it go. Timer went off and I opened it prepared for the warm aroma of kid food and boom, it was cold....helps if you plug that daggone thing in!!! The kids just thought it was SOOO funny :o)
Lynette Ellis said:I am forever running the coffee pot and forgetting to put the coffee in there!!!
Rebekah said:OMG I do that with the crock pot ALL the time...now my husband reminds me to check it, or goes and checks it himself if he's home!!! Yikes!!!
Monica Johnson said:I used to think that somethings that happened in my life were hilarious. After I read a book about understanding women with addI I was not laughing. Things that happened in my life just stopped being funny when I realized the severity of my add. I just want to take a step back and discover the humor again. If anyone else would care to share something that happened to them we could all be laughing.
I have so many incidents involving car keys and cooking. One night I forgot to put the pasta in the hamburger helper, I thought it looked funny. Anoher time I failed to turn the crock pot on and it took four hours for me to notice it was not working. At least we got to eat out on those special days.
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